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31 March 2008 Monday

/. Study Shows Males Commonly Mistake Sexual Intent

slated in mused, mainstream at 6:54 am

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Study Shows Males Commonly Mistake Sexual Intent
seattle-pk writes “Males are apparently clueless when it comes to interpreting sexual intent from females, according to a recent study (PDF) from Indiana University’s Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences. Men were found commonly to perceive more sexual intent in women’s behavior than women were intending to convey. (A campus survey showed that 68% of college females had an experience where a male mistook signs of friendliness for affection.) However, the study also shows that men were quite likely to misperceive sexual interest as friendliness. ‘Rather than seeing the world through sex-colored glasses, men seemed just to have blurry vision of sorts, overall,’ according to the article. If you’re a male who ever mistook the meaning of a barista’s smile, looks like you’re not alone.”

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The comments are rather interesting, although not terribly informative or really relevant… I guess the relevance is relative, though.

The news is not new. Guys misinterpret; girls are vague/confusing.
But.. sometimes a girl is not vague, and the guy does not misinterpret. He oversteps and he knows it, and she tells him and he hears her. And he apologizes and says it won’t happen again. Where’s the misperception/misunderstanding, then, when he does it again? A pattern of misunderstanding? I don’t think that’s a matter of mistaking intent. It’s making excuses, choosing to exercise selective and creative memory and taking liberty with one’s own picture and preference of things, with disregard and disrespect for the other individual. It’s not okay.

Comments on /. Study Shows Males Commonly Mistake Sexual Intent

  1. Yeah, it’s true, in some occasions it happens as you say also. However, take an example geek from recent tv series “Beauty and the geek”. He’s naive, he’s software engineer, he writes poetry in his blog. There’s a huge probability, that he’ll misinterpret simple friendliness from a girl, because he hasn’t got any friendliness from women ever. He even might fall in love from kiss to cheek. And that IS ok. Not everyone is foul.

    commented Mon 31 Mar 2008, 10:28:59 PM :: link
  2. I appreciate and fully support your point, Roy.
    I think it is fair to say that I am much more likely to err on the assumption of benigness/harmlessness/sweetness than I am to freak out or dismiss a person for some well-intended or isolated actions.

    However, while “no; I don’t; don’t ever do it again” could be argued as misunderstanding or circumstantial the first time, I venture that third time and every after are not going to make those words any clearer.

    commented Thu 03 Apr 2008, 05:44:52 PM :: link
  3. true.. true..

    commented Sun 13 Apr 2008, 10:05:56 PM :: link
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