They would twirl the emotional kaleidoscope until it gave them a picture that was comfortable.

From Washington Post article How the Brain Helps Partisans Admit No Gray by Shankar Vedantam on 31 July 2006, quoting Emory University psychologist Drew Westen [via, source]

i know you try your hardest to give me what i need;
you show me where your heart is; mine needs time to breathe
it may not broken, but it's far from fine...
the sweetest words you've spoken will help it mend in time...

“oh, the letters have dropped off, though they say you got them all; i finally figured out some things you’ll never know. take back your life and let me inside. we’ll find the door if you care to anymore.”