They would twirl the emotional kaleidoscope until it gave them a picture that was comfortable.

From Washington Post article How the Brain Helps Partisans Admit No Gray by Shankar Vedantam on 31 July 2006, quoting Emory University psychologist Drew Westen [via, source]

you don't know it's right until it's wrong--You don't know it's yours until it's gone --i didn't know that it was home 'til you up and left

she told me, “Son, fear is the heart of love,” so I never went back.