They would twirl the emotional kaleidoscope until it gave them a picture that was comfortable.

From Washington Post article How the Brain Helps Partisans Admit No Gray by Shankar Vedantam on 31 July 2006, quoting Emory University psychologist Drew Westen [via, source]

so tonight, when i left here, all i said was “goodbye” and thats alright. no “i’ll see you later”. i’ve been trying my whole life.
And if its an eye for an eye, why cant i get this right? i’m too slow to go fast, i’m too nervous to do that. so i run, run away.. why should i….

With all the hurt that I’ve done, hold it high for me
that can’t be undone, hold it high for me
light and guide me through, hold it high for me
I’ll do the same for you, and hold it high for me